The Past
There is a parable often told to show that we need to be willing to learn and set aside our prejudices. (For example in the beautiful book Zen Flesh, Zen Bones). The seeker approaches the wise one, seeking to be their disciple. The wise one takes on the humble role of serving tea to the [...]
Why do we do to others what we didn’t like done to us? One of the curious parts of our human experience is that we pass on the bad stuff. Sometimes we even realise we are doing it. And it isn’t uncommon. Those who have had abused childhoods can still abuse their children. Those who [...]
Image by Jean If we have been alive for terribly long we probably have regrets. Let’s start by looking at what regret is. What is regret? It seems to me that it is a sense of falling short in some way. We have a sense that we should have done something and didn’t do it, [...]
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Image by JasonRogers In a previous post I said that ‘yesterday is gone’ and it is good to be free of it. A couple of people in the comments picked me up on various aspects of this. So this post is to explore this issue in more depth. It is common for us to who [...]
Image by Thai Jasmine Fleetwood Mac (yes, I’m that old) reminded us that “yesterday’s gone”. This is absolutely true – and us ‘holding on’ to it leads to many problems. Many of us have attitudes that haven’t been up-dated since our childhood, and this can lead to big problems in our relationships. At a smaller [...]
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