Change
After a big change am I still me? We have grown so much since we were six months old – does it make much sense to think of ourselves as being the same person?
These are the sorts of things I’m puzzling about in my guest post on the Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blog. [...]
My second guest post for the week on the Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blog is Small Steps are Small, But Over Time They Add Up. (You will note that they are both about half the usual length.) This was originally the lead in to my other post on responding to boredom (I [...]
There I’ve said it: I don’t accept the way things are.
Call me unenlightened if you will, but before you do I’d like to mention some things that happen in our world.
Women and children are ‘collateral damage’ in our wars.
The most dangerous place is home: domestic violence is far and away the most common [...]
Why do we do to others what we didn’t like done to us?
One of the curious parts of our human experience is that we pass on the bad stuff. Sometimes we even realise we are doing it. And it isn’t uncommon.
Those who have had abused childhoods can still abuse their children. Those [...]
Preface: Should You Listen to Me?
Am I the picture of ideal health? Nope. What I am is reasonably fit, have relationships that I find satisfying, aren’t overwhelmed by emotions that I can’t handle and my thinking usually serves me well. At this point in my life I’m pretty happy about where I [...]
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Step Five. Moving Toward Commonality.
It is a bit of a toss-up whether it was this step or the first one that is the hardest. This step involved being with disgust and feeling uncompromising.
For us it may have been easier than it may be for others. We’ve been together for a [...]
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Step Two. Who am I in this?
Eventually it becomes possible to not focus only on the other person. It becomes possible to focus on ourselves again. We have a sense that we are settled in our own skin. We have a sense of our own sensations and emotions – [...]
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This is a reflection on a process that my partner and I have recently been through. It was an extraordinarily intense and difficult time for us. It lasted about a month. During all this time we didn’t know whether our relationship would last – even though we thought we would [...]
