Evan on November 18th, 2009

This is just a quick post to direct you to a post about anger and defending ourselves. It is written by Joyce on her blog I Take Off The Mask. This post is in the style of writing that the blog is usually written in. This style is unusual in the blogosphere – it is […]

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Image by sk8rboi At the moment I am sharing a house with an eight year old (let’s call her ‘Screamer’) and a five year old (let’s call him ‘Kicker’). They are experts at provoking each other. This has led to me dealing with a lot of anger in the last few weeks. (The preference for […]

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Image by thp365 Step Five. Moving Toward Commonality. It is a bit of a toss-up whether it was this step or the first one that is the hardest. This step involved being with disgust and feeling uncompromising. For us it may have been easier than it may be for others. We’ve been together for a […]

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Image by thp365 Step Two. Who am I in this? Eventually it becomes possible to not focus only on the other person. It becomes possible to focus on ourselves again. We have a sense that we are settled in our own skin. We have a sense of our own sensations and emotions – and the […]

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Evan on October 13th, 2008

Image by genvessel First off a most important disclaimer: this DOES NOT apply to rage. What do I mean by the difference between anger and rage? What I mean is that if someone is angry they can still be reasoned with. Someone who is enraged is past reasoning. This is most commonly seen in childrens’ […]

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Evan on July 14th, 2008

Anger has been a bit of a theme on this blog for the past week or so. It started with a post on using to change and then I felt I needed to follow it up because of an email from one of the people who read the post. One of the issues for them, […]

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Evan on July 9th, 2008

Image by hulagway Recently I wrote this post about using the energy of anger to change. This lead to an email which was very forthright and which I’ve got permission to quote from. This reader said that: “. . . the reference you made to the continued or ongoing use of anger leads to bitterness, […]

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Evan on July 2nd, 2008

Image by Vanessa Pike-Russel Anger is valuable in helping us change for two reasons. It is one way of knowing what is important to us. It is the energy to initiate.1. Knowing what is important to us.We only get angry about what is important to us. Something that is not important to us we either […]

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