It’s been a great time in the part of the blogoshpere that I inhabit: lots of excellent posts. So here are some excellent posts that I have found from my travels in the blogosphere lately.

First up a couple of posts from one of my new favourite bloggers, kaushik at beyond karma. First up is a post whose depth is belied by its rather cheeky title A Handbook of Awakening – 36 key tips. While each tip is treated briefly using this post as something to keep working on could really help turn your life around. My favourites are: develop a gentle honesty with yourself, enjoy easy movement and do less enjoy more. My one disagreement – get up early. The second is kaushik’s examination of How do we know what is good for us? This sounds simple but when examined leads into some deep waters and interesting places. This is about unity with essence, similar to what I would call living authentically. It is very worth reading.

To be awake and in unity with essence means (at least) a life of creativity. Luciano at Litemind, uses the four roles from Roger Oech’s A Whack on the Side of the Head, to make creativity more accessible and less mysterious. The four roles (or to my mind stages in the process) are: explorer (being curious, getting lots of input from diverse places); artist (imagining, playing, brainstorming); the judge (sorting the good from the bad, becoming aware of our tendencies and biases); and the warrior (making it real in the real world – innovation takes consistent work). If you feel stuck in some part of your life or with a particular problem then using this process to address it is well worth trying. The post is called Deconstructing Creativity: The 4 Roles You Need to Play to be Fully Creative.

Alex at Unleash Reality challenges the belief in Just Getting By. Alex is a young man and writes a decidedly hip language. This I find delightful and refreshing, for instance he states that, “Limiting beliefs are sneaky little bastards.” Beautifully put. Even better is the next paragraph-long sentence,

They [limiting beliefs] lick their oily fur flat and tuck in their tails so that they can squeeze into shiny neon pixie costumes, sparkly glitter makeup and fairydust perfume hiding their noxious nature, and they fly and flitter their sneakily disguised asses around your shoulder like the fairies in Peter Pan, appearing very tame and well-intentioned and fairy-godmother-like, whispering sugarfrosted lies in your hoodwinked ear about how you can’t be brilliant and how the world is out to get you and there’s nothing you can do about it but settle for what you can get and play it safe and try to get by.

Alex’s writing is always fresh and frequently amusing – and he always has something to say. I recommend Unleash Reality highly.

With a more tone is: You Deplete Me: ten steps to end a toxic relationship. The basic idea is that the need to be completed by someone is the basic problem. The steps are clear and not simplistic. They include deeper stuff (not just staying with surface behaviour), such us #3 Identifying the perks (ie. the ‘benefits’ that the relationship offered you). If you feel you are in a relationship you shouldn’t be then this is an excellent guide to ending it.

Why go to a psychotherapist? For Alex Blackwell it is about Tracing Life Every Other Wednesday – that is, it is about far more than therapy (fixing problems). Alex also lists ten things that he has learned while seeing his therapist. Things like: I don’t have to be perfect to be loved and many choices are still available. It is a good reflection on the value of therapy.

Which brings me to the topic of change: specifically, whether we can get other people to change. This is the topic of You Can’t Force Other People to Change – but you can help them. In this post Ali Hale gives ways to help others change: let them know you value them, ask them what they want, and ask how you can help. Simple? Oh yes. Easy to do? Yes and no. Would it have a major impact on our relationships if we did this? I certainly think so.

For a strong finish to this round-up of excellent posts there is John at storied mind talking about dealing with recovering from depression. While the depression is gone there are still all the ways of living that were developed while depressed to deal with. In this post, Stressing Life by the Rules, John deals with the stress of developing rules to live by – for every situation, in detail! John puts it this way,

Out went the assumption that I was worthless, bad, inadequate, doomed to fail (and on and on), but it’s taken awhile to dismantle the structure of rules that I had created to bind up that bad person.

This post is vividly and personally written.  If you are someone who is recovering from depression or know someone who is, it is well worth reading.

That’s the round up from my part of the blogosphere.  I think you’ll find it a rich hoard.  Let me know what you think in the comments, Evan.


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4 Comments to “Some Great Posts on Diverse Topics”

  1. Barbara says:

    Hi Evan,

    As I think I’ve mentioned, I am and have been trying to deal with a toxic relationship with my sister. Although I am more mentally and a little emotionally aware, I have not yet taken enough physical action. I realize it’s a process and try to keep that in mind as I keep making steps, if only internally.

    So, the first post recommendation I read is “You Deplete Me”.

    There is one paragraph in the article I think I should have tattooed somewhere or at least imprinted or imbedded in something where I can see it everyday.

    “The energy it takes to endure withdrawal [to an addictive or toxic relationship] is equivalent to working a full-time job. Truthfully, this may be the hardest work you’ve ever done. In addition to support from people who understand your undertaking, you must keep the rest of your life simple. You need rest and solitude.”

    I’ve had two full-time jobs, leaving little time for anything else, know I absolutely don’t want to do it again.

    I might add, in order to remain in a toxic relationship it may also take equivalent or greater energy. It can sometimes, even now when I no longer converse with my sister unless imperative, feel like a full-time job managing only this one aspect of no talking.

    The other point is ongoing awareness. I think my biggest detractor has been those moments when our relationship seems ok or even just tolerable. I think knowing those moments don’t and won’t make up for the rest is a very hard aspect to hold. If I’ve said once…but she’s my sister…I’ve said it a hundred plus times.

    It makes a lot of sense why my time seems usurped and I haven’t had a clue this was why.

    Thanks for this recommendation.

    Barbara

  2. Evan says:

    I’m very glad it helped Barbara. Thanks for your comment.

  3. Thanks for putting this list together – it’s a good view of the valuable content that is available.

  4. Evan says:

    Hi Alex, you’re most welcome.

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