I think your description of impact as “beyond comprehension” is most accurate stated in a very succinct manner.

As I look at my situation, disbelief is always the first thing on my list. It seems you have observed these same dynamics with the friends you mentioned, whether they expressed them or not.

Your support is appreciated.

I have friends who were abused and the impact it has had on their lives is beyond comprehension at times.
The circle you refer to is real and unfortunately, if not properly handled when abuse occurs can be difficult to break later in life.

Thankyou
Sally