Comments on: Intimacy: how to get more of it

By: Evan

Evan — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 07:35:21 +0000

I think you’re probably right JoLynn.

Thanks for your comment.

By: Evan

Evan — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 07:34:33 +0000

Hi Tara,

It’s not the first place I thought of. But it probably does provide a place where you can spend and not get hassled too much.

By the way, I like your blog.

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

By: JoLynn Braley

JoLynn Braley — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 06:20:57 +0000

I agree that it’s difficult to truly connect when you’re in a noisy environment. Maybe that’s why relaxed coffee shops became popular when they first started popping up everywhere.

By: Tara

Tara — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 05:51:28 +0000

And don’t forget, if you find yourself in need of intimacy (as almost everyone is in this isolating culture) and you value it, take yourself to your local strip club.

By: Evan

Evan — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 02:01:37 +0000

Thanks for taking the time to comment Raymond. Let me know how it goes when you try them out.

By: Raymond Chua

Raymond Chua — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 01:57:58 +0000

Thanks for the advice.

I’ll try the tips out.

By: Evan

Evan — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 23:11:31 +0000

Hi Devin,

Yes, I think infatuation is different to intimacy. It can be entirely one-sided, so as you say, the real connections not there.

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

By: Devin

Devin — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 19:30:41 +0000

I agree that intimacy has to be mutual. I haven’t heard about “fake intimacy” before, but it makes some sense to put it that way.

I suppose infatuation could be a form of fake intimacy if I’m interpreting it correctly. The feelings of infatuation can be strong and feel intimate, and actually can be something both people share in a relationship. But the true level of intimacy found in love isn’t found in infatuation because it may not be completely based in reality for each individual. The true connection isn’t quite there.

Good idea for an entry.