Comments on: I statements – not just talking about me. http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/i-statements-not-just-talking-about-me/ All aspects of wellbeing and health Sat, 05 May 2012 17:45:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Evan Hadkins http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/i-statements-not-just-talking-about-me/comment-page-1/#comment-199 Evan Hadkins Wed, 12 Dec 2007 21:52:02 +0000 http://wellbeingandhealth.net/psychological-health/i-statements-not-just-talking-about-me/#comment-199 Yes I do think it is effectively statement in light disguise. The point of I statements is to get us to recall our agency (in my humble opinion). When we know it is we who are asking they have done their job. I do think it can be really useful in political discussions. I think we often have shared values that don't come out until we enquire a little more deeply. Thanks for your comment DrSteve. Evan Yes I do think it is effectively statement in light disguise.

The point of I statements is to get us to recall our agency (in my humble opinion). When we know it is we who are asking they have done their job.

I do think it can be really useful in political discussions. I think we often have shared values that don’t come out until we enquire a little more deeply.

Thanks for your comment DrSteve.

Evan

]]> By: DrSteve http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/i-statements-not-just-talking-about-me/comment-page-1/#comment-193 DrSteve Wed, 12 Dec 2007 17:56:08 +0000 http://wellbeingandhealth.net/psychological-health/i-statements-not-just-talking-about-me/#comment-193 Nice application to politics. (I recently heard a man say: "I've always voted X; I could never vote Y". And I thought two things: 1. Never? No matter what? 2. And, You'll never have an interesting thing to say about politics either, is my guess.) Using 'I-statements' means humbling oneself a a little, getting off the soap-box and listening. When it comes to politics it can be very rewardng to now and then adopt a completly naive position. What I mean is not to con the other person, but to adopt the role of someone who truly wants to know. E.g. Tell me what it is you like about X. Mm, I see that this doesn't look like an I-statement, but do think that in effect it is (it's saying something like: I want to know what you know)? Nice application to politics. (I recently heard a man say: “I’ve always voted X; I could never vote Y”. And I thought two things: 1. Never? No matter what? 2. And, You’ll never have an interesting thing to say about politics either, is my guess.)
Using ‘I-statements’ means humbling oneself a a little, getting off the soap-box and listening. When it comes to politics it can be very rewardng to now and then adopt a completly naive position. What I mean is not to con the other person, but to adopt the role of someone who truly wants to know. E.g. Tell me what it is you like about X. Mm, I see that this doesn’t look like an I-statement, but do think that in effect it is (it’s saying something like: I want to know what you know)?

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