Comments on: Finding a Free-er Place http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/ All aspects of wellbeing and health: physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and social Sun, 12 Oct 2008 15:16:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Evan http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/#comment-716 Evan Sun, 30 Mar 2008 22:18:23 +0000 http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/#comment-716 Thanks Mark. It is very difficult for me when I hit the wall in a relationship like that. I'm glad that you find this blog a good space. Looking forward to hearing from you again. Thanks Mark.

It is very difficult for me when I hit the wall in a relationship like that.

I’m glad that you find this blog a good space. Looking forward to hearing from you again.

]]> By: Mark http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/#comment-715 Mark Sun, 30 Mar 2008 12:19:40 +0000 http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/#comment-715 Evan, I hope this comment finds the white pages of your blog. I to have "hit the wall" in a relationship with a relative. It's rather frustrating to hit that wall, then have no way to get around it, go over it,under it, or right on through it.The real comfort of communicating in person is removed. That's pretty frustrating to me. I'm Justa saying! I to have found "a good space" with your blog and will return as time allows. Evan, I hope this comment finds the white pages of your blog. I to have “hit the wall” in a relationship with a relative. It’s rather frustrating to hit that wall, then have no way to get around it, go over it,under it, or right on through it.The real comfort of communicating in person is removed. That’s pretty frustrating to me. I’m Justa saying! I to have found “a good space” with your blog and will return as time allows.

]]> By: Evan http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/#comment-696 Evan Fri, 28 Mar 2008 23:30:59 +0000 http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/#comment-696 Thanks for you comment Barbara. I'm glad you've made some good spaces for yourself. It's good to hear that this blog is one. As to breaking points. It may be an unidentified fear. Perhaps it's exhaustion (if you're a perfectionist who demands things of yourself incessantly this can quickly lead to exhaustion). Or it may be that a way of thinking has stopped working and you seem to have nowhere to go and nothing that can be done. Or, as you say, two energies colliding. Usually for me it has been a relationship where I have 'hit the wall'. And it is usually a combination of a whole lot of things - including how we related to each other. Thanks for commenting. I really appreciate it. Thanks for you comment Barbara.

I’m glad you’ve made some good spaces for yourself. It’s good to hear that this blog is one.

As to breaking points. It may be an unidentified fear. Perhaps it’s exhaustion (if you’re a perfectionist who demands things of yourself incessantly this can quickly lead to exhaustion). Or it may be that a way of thinking has stopped working and you seem to have nowhere to go and nothing that can be done. Or, as you say, two energies colliding. Usually for me it has been a relationship where I have ‘hit the wall’. And it is usually a combination of a whole lot of things - including how we related to each other.

Thanks for commenting. I really appreciate it.

]]> By: Barbara http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/#comment-695 Barbara Fri, 28 Mar 2008 21:17:16 +0000 http://wellbeingandhealth.net/relationships/finding-a-free-er-place/#comment-695 Hi Evan, It's true. I do long for those free-er places. There is no doubt I have tried to create them in my life. Over and over. I think even just conversation with people who think other than I do can open the door. I've also found in my own experience, I get to some sort of breaking point. Where I just can't continue to engage. Other than fear, I haven't been able to determine what stops me from proceeding. And I truly don't think in some instances I've had reason to fear. I wish I had an answer. I actually think it has happened here, as I commented on your blog. I know I am free to say whatever I'd like, as you have created that specific atmosphere by openly requesting whatever type of comment. Stopping is almost as real as actually hitting a brick wall. I guess a better comparison in my own life would be the impact of an automobile accident because I know what that felt like. The energy is that strong. I wonder if the two energies colliding, the want for free-er and the (unidentified) fear causes that sensation. Or if in fact they are the exact same energies at work. Thanks for the space to talk this out a little. Barbara Hi Evan,

It’s true. I do long for those free-er places. There is no doubt I have tried to create them in my life. Over and over. I think even just conversation with people who think other than I do can open the door.

I’ve also found in my own experience, I get to some sort of breaking point. Where I just can’t continue to engage. Other than fear, I haven’t been able to determine what stops me from proceeding. And I truly don’t think in some instances I’ve had reason to fear. I wish I had an answer.

I actually think it has happened here, as I commented on your blog. I know I am free to say whatever I’d like, as you have created that specific atmosphere by openly requesting whatever type of comment.

Stopping is almost as real as actually hitting a brick wall. I guess a better comparison in my own life would be the impact of an automobile accident because I know what that felt like. The energy is that strong.

I wonder if the two energies colliding, the want for free-er and the (unidentified) fear causes that sensation. Or if in fact they are the exact same energies at work.

Thanks for the space to talk this out a little.

Barbara

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