Thanks for commenting.

Another way to think about it is that there may be different options about leaving: mostly how and how much contact is maintained.

I want to thank you for your courage in commenting. These are enormously difficult things to deal with.

Sending you all my loving thoughts.

Evan

What I’ve found is coming to awareness and then coming to terms with domestic violence are two very different things.

In general, domestic violence is most often apparent to the person being abused and maybe even others observing the situation. You gave some very good explanations of the rationalizations that occur. There is no doubt a paralyzed state also occurs. As a result, accepting the abusive treatment rather than seeking help/freedom seems to make more sense.

It is difficult to come to terms that leaving is most often the only answer. When even you, in a recent post, said a technique that might be used when facing a dilemma is to put the idea in your mind there are probably six ways to look at a situation. It is difficult to accept the ‘problem’ called abuse, usually at the hands of someone you love, has only one view.

Of course, the reason I’ve had this question and answer repeat over and over is the reality of finding myself in just such a situation.