Do They Want Us To Stay The Same?

2 Comments to “Do They Want Us To Stay The Same?”

1. Barbara says:

   September 4, 2008 at 8:51 am

   Hi Evan,

   Good article. I read over there but have decided to comment here.

   I think for others in one’s life, both the desire for staying the same and change are true, or can be.

   I have a difficult relationship with my sister. It was not until recently I realized just how difficult. In fact, many of my personal goals for change revolve around our relationship.

   Ironically, she has been on the changing me bandwagon since we were much younger than we are now. Yet, as she has seen radical changes, changes I think she doesn’t understand or maybe doesn’t approve (I don’t know which, or if, because we rarely speak now) she seems to be resigned to its occurrence. The resigning has mostly presented as indifference.

   Seems unlikely she went from a non-stop campaign to see me change all kinds of things to simply not caring, so in my case, I’m going to say she wants both. I guess it’s just as likely she just doesn’t know what to do with the change, as we have such a long relationship.

   I suspect there is some lack of belief that change is occurring or has even the possibility of ocurrence. I also suspect the changes might be other than what was expected or wished for. I can hardly dispute that, though. Some things I’m working toward are totally unexpected and others I thought would never change, nor did I think I wanted them altered.

   Lastly, there is the expectation of the same sister she has known her entire life, a really strong determinent. One I equally struggle with as I make the changes.
2. Evan says:

   September 4, 2008 at 9:12 am

   Hi Barbara,

   Thanks for your comment.

   I wish you well in the changes you are making. They sound like they are big ones. I trust you are finding some support from other people than your sister.