Comments on: Connecting with the Emotion

By: Evan

Evan — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 01:52:43 +0000

Thanks Tom,
You put it very well. This was my experience too.

By: Tom Stine

Tom Stine — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:44:01 +0000

Nice post, Evan. I’ve noticed that most people do what I used to do: they only “feel” their feelings from the neck up. It was a huge change in my life when I learned to feel from the neck down. My feelings felt clearer and cleaner and were more informative.

By: Evan

Evan — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 22:02:09 +0000

Thanks NTSRT. I do think it helps the day go more smoothly.

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

By: Never the Same River Twice

Never the Same River Twice — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 13:39:02 +0000

I think you’ve identified a real challenge in communications - especially in the workplace. There are some people who are *always* looking for emotional validation in their conversations, while other people are much more data-driven. Identifying that and working with those people appropriately makes the work day go much more smoothly!

By: Evan

Evan — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 22:24:18 +0000

Hi Cindy,

You’re absolutely right.

Thanks Patrick. Stepping back from judgements and openning will improve our relationships with the ‘opposite’ sex greatly in my experience. It is also true that the eyes give you the message without a word spoken. Thankyou for you thoughtful response.

Thanks both Cindy and Patrick for taking the time to comment.

By: Patrick

Patrick — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:22:34 +0000

It is enlightening to step back from your judgment responses and think try to think it through emotionally when dealing with the opposite sex. I have been married for 25 years and believe thinking through emotions will release feelings of anger and helplessness to one of understanding and trust. Get past your own defense mechanisms. Open yourself up and understand the others point of view so they can trust you emotionally. Validate their feelings.
I am also amazed how many responses develop between spouses over the years. Tone and body language speak volumes and when the eyes hit you the message is usually very clear…with no words spoken.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 17:11:34 +0000

Great Post. Another exercise is to really understand our own emotions. Sometimes I don’t process how I am feeling and that uncertainty is conveyed in the interactions with others.

By: Evan

Evan — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 22:31:10 +0000

Thanks Jenny. I’ll do a quick post and point people to the link.

Thanks Isabella. Showing emotion can be a bit of a challenge (perhaps moreso for those of us of the male persuasion?) - our inner critics (well, mine anyway) seem to like us to maintain control. One of my ‘problems’ is not showing sadness.

I think I probably do the last two more than the others too.

Thanks to both of you for taking the time to comment.