There are a couple of ideas that annoy me. The first is that we can do nothing. The second is that we can do everything.

Both seem obviously nonsensical to me. The choices I make (eg whether to treat a friend well or badly) seem to make a big difference to the quality of my life. And there are some things that I can’t change immediately (some problems are way bigger than I can fix on a large scale – like the appalling price of housing in Australia) and there are some things that can’t be done (we can’t feed the world on a Western diet any time soon and maybe never).

In the part of the blogosphere that I hang about in (health and self-development) it is the idea that we can do everything that is the problem – I think it is flat out wrong and can be very depressing to those who take it on and then discover that it is not the case.

This is the subject of my guest post on the Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blog, it is called Object and Subject: how we participate in creating our experience.

It seems to me that we respond to the situation we are in and we find out how much we can change and what we can do. I don’t think we can know in advance what we are capable of changing and achieving. It is my experience, without exception, that we are capable of doing more than we believe (so long as we are willing to learn and try stuff). I am very optimistic about what individuals can achieve.

I hope you like the post, I’d like to hear what you make of it, Evan.


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4 Comments to “We Participate in Creating Our Experience”

  1. Rags says:

    I just wrote a ridiculously long comment, but decided it’d be more appropriate to reply to your guest post 😉

  2. Evan says:

    Long comments are fine. I’ll go look at the other post, thanks for engaging with what I have to say.

  3. Adam says:

    Hi Evan

    Did you notice the typo in your title?

    Here’s an interesting news-bite which correlates well with your more realistic approach to the role of the Subjective…

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/tec.....learn.html

    …it’s a piece by Richard Wiseman, a clinical psych who has investigated the differences between lucky & unlucky people. That surprised me as I always thought ‘luck’ was too random to study, but what he found was ‘luckiness’ is actually a skilful attitude to one’s experiences, an openess to possibility and opportunity. The unlucky fixate too much on singular objects of desire and miss all the contigent possibilities that the lucky spot because they ‘free their minds’ from ego-fixations.

  4. Evan says:

    Hi Adam, thanks for alerting me to the typo. Fixed now. I’d heard about the study of luck – it is interesting. Thanks for your comment.

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