Yes, we need to back off and invite people to ‘come out’. It is because we are unusual. So people are used to other ways of relating. This means we need to exercise patience (certainly not my chief virtue) because otherwise people get scared. They expect people to play by the rules and when we don’t they need to be reassured that we are safe to be around.

So it’s possible to reveal parts of what’s real rather than all at once. This has been my approach. I hope it’s useful to you.

With those we know better it is then possible to be real and not worry too much. I still don’t enjoy the need to be patient - I still feel deep inside that we should be able to just be real with each other. But other’s feel differently to me about this.

Thanks for your comment. I hope my response helps.