Comments on: Three Steps to a New Life

By: Evan

Evan — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 00:03:58 +0000

Thanks Mike, please let me know how you find other posts, I’d love to hear. We share a similar background and interests so it’s great to hear from you. Welcome and thanks for visiting.

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 22:06:33 +0000

Funny Evan,
I stumbled across your blog, about an hour ago in the parking lot waiting for a friend to take care of some business. It seems odd, your answer to Tom’s comment above on A Course In Miracles. Your interest in psychology and apparent lifelong commitment to Christianity, seems like you would have read it. Yes, it is wordy, as you put it. I, like you, have spent a life (I’m 59) studying comparitve religion, and have spent time, life, and effort in practice in christianity, buddhism, hinduism, taoism, islam, juddaism, shaminism, and have spent some 30 years studying a variety of self help “gurus”, ahve spent 25 years in various therapies (I’m not that neurotic, I’m just interested in what makes me work…) have studied psychology (a little) in college, at the time I was considering in majoring in it, all of this trying to put my upbringing in a Southern Baptist approach to religion into a perspective that made sense to me. It wasn’t until I completed ACIM, it took three tries over 12 years, to get through the entire body of knowledge and daily exercises, since I have done it again. I found it to be the key to understanding everything I had experienced and studied to putting it all together, and begin a true walk down my path. I too have found taoism’s approach the most practicle, and find no contridiction in that and my christian leanings.
Great blog so far, I look forward to perusing it more,
Mike Fielder

By: Evan

Evan — Tue, 13 May 2008 22:14:30 +0000

Yes, Mark it is making great sense because I have the same trouble.

Yes, we need to back off and invite people to ‘come out’. It is because we are unusual. So people are used to other ways of relating. This means we need to exercise patience (certainly not my chief virtue) because otherwise people get scared. They expect people to play by the rules and when we don’t they need to be reassured that we are safe to be around.

So it’s possible to reveal parts of what’s real rather than all at once. This has been my approach. I hope it’s useful to you.

With those we know better it is then possible to be real and not worry too much. I still don’t enjoy the need to be patient – I still feel deep inside that we should be able to just be real with each other. But other’s feel differently to me about this.

Thanks for your comment. I hope my response helps.

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 13 May 2008 17:14:13 +0000

That third step is the one I’m having the most trouble with. Learning to relate differently to people than I have before.It is so easy and natural for me to be “real” with people. I found that strangers have a hard time handling this. Sometimes my being real offends people. Evan. Tell me whats your take on this. Do I need to back off? Is my question even making sense?

By: Evan

Evan — Mon, 12 May 2008 05:04:28 +0000

Remarkable – I’ve never read it. It looked too big and wordy for me.

By: Tom Stine | Living from Consciousness

Tom Stine | Living from Consciousness — Mon, 12 May 2008 04:31:09 +0000

Funny, Evan, your model sounds almost identical to the model presented in A Course in Miracles. Cool.