I particularly like that he acknowledges the importance of the situation and also emphasises that we can usually take initiative to make changes in the situation. The way he advocates for doing this is by examining the situation, finding the problems in it and then looking at the hard questions.
One example (my summary) is:
The situation: I can’t go that weekend, I have to work.
The Real Problem: too demanding job, too demanding social life, poor management of job/social life
Hard Questions: What’s more important to me (job or relationships)? How can I be more efficient? How can I get the weekends off from my job?
It’s a really good post I think.