Comments on: Laziness (a.k.a. Wisdom?)

By: Evan

Evan — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 06:00:29 +0000

Hi Nat,

Welcome. I really like what you say about not pretending. And I couldn’t agree more strongly that any sane world would minimize work and maximise freedom. Thanks for your comment.

By: Nat

Nat — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 03:01:06 +0000

As you suggest, “laziness” is simply sanity. It is nothing more than an honestly-acknowledged unwillingness to do things we don’t want to do. Granted, there are always occasions when we have to disregard laziness in order to do some pressing thing – but we should always do so honestly rather than pretend it is some sort of desirable situation.

In any sane world, work would be minimized and freedom maximized. It is only a thoroughly indoctrinated and deeply misguided society which would promote work as something desirable or good in and of itself.

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By: Evan

Evan — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 22:51:31 +0000

Hi Chris,
I think this is a remarkably powerful process.

By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 22:38:57 +0000

Hi Evan — for me, one of the most important realizations has been that what we call happiness is just a set of physical sensations, like maybe an increased heart rate, a feeling of warmth in the chest, and so on. Like anger, sadness, and other emotions, it can feel intense and scary. What I often do is just sit there with someone as they give themselves permission to experience these feelings, and help them to feel safe as they do. When they discover that just being with what they’re experiencing hasn’t killed them, that gives them a sense of greater freedom and possibility.

By: Evan

Evan — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 00:27:45 +0000

Hi Chris,
I’d be interested in hearing how you work with these people, if you’d like to say in general terms. I wish you every success in doing so. I do think we tend to make a virtue out of suffering – and I wish we didn’t. My guess is that usually we can change in small steps each of which can be pleasant and a gain. Is this similar to how you work?

Thanks for your comment.

By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 22:04:58 +0000

Thanks for this post. Making a virtue out of suffering also seems to me to be, well, a big source of suffering for people. I’ve now worked with a number of people who feel like they aren’t allowed to “get too happy,” or they’d be spoiled, selfish, or whatever else they got called as children, and they feel like if they stopped worrying or suffering the world would fall apart. Those are the people I most want to help.

By: Evan

Evan — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 19:57:30 +0000

Hi Jean,

It sounds like you are married to a wise man. I trust this means an easy life for both – as he seems to be married to a wise woman.

Thanks for your comment.