Comments on: How to Feel at Home in Our Own Skins

By: Evan

Evan — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 02:14:27 +0000

Hi Chris, I like that “peaceful blankness”. Thanks for your comment.

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 02:08:23 +0000

Hi Evan — I think that’s such a useful inquiry — to look at what’s really going on when we refer to “my” body. Noticing that pattern of speech has us look at what we really are, and when we look at that, the answer we come up with (in my experience) is mental blankness. It’s a peaceful blankness though.

By: Evan

Evan — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 21:22:44 +0000

Thanks Ian, interesting about the hair. Coming back to myself is usually a matter of getting somewhere quiet and by myself, though walking also works for me. Thanks for your comment.

By: Ian | Quantum Learning

Ian | Quantum Learning — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 12:56:20 +0000

Evan. Fascinating topic! And really such an important one .. if we don’t feel good in our physical bodies (which is the basic level of our existence) then I doubt it’s possible to feel good about any part of our selves.

I don’t always feel good about my own body .. I find the best way to reconnect with it and feel good about it is through making love. Being naked in the presence of another naked person – and enjoying each other – brings me back to myself.

Exercise also helps.

And strangely enough .. keeping my head shaved. There’s no hair to hide behind. I’d not thought about that before .. interesting.

Great post. Ian

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By: Evan

Evan — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 10:05:19 +0000

Hi Adelaide, I confess I didn’t taste olives mindfully – more cautious nibbling and then being caught up in, “thats weird!” It sounds like you had a major change three years ago. Thanks for your comment.

By: Adelaide

Adelaide — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 09:59:41 +0000

I try to tell my voices they will be okay and safe with me, because they are in me.

It was interesting to read about your first experience with olives. Did you taste it mindfully, like some people are encouraged to taste raisins or grapes?

Three years ago I had to learn a whole new way of relating to my body, or rather ‘get out’ things which I had repressed or not experienced. (When you said, ‘Damage to our brain can lead to changes in our experience’…)