It’s been quite a while since I did a round-up of good posts from the blogosphere – and lately there have been quite a few.
First up, diving in deep. A couple of posts on dealing with our shadow. They both mention Debbie Ford’s The Dark Side of the Light Chasers. Dealing with the shadow (the parts of ourselves that we dislike and so try to ignore or eliminate) in my experience is essential for deep change.
First is Tony Teegarden, who tells his own story about dealing with the shadow (the first example he gives is of dealing with his judgements about those who smoke: realising that he disliked in himself what he was judging the smokers for being). It is personal engaging, and lays out clearly what is involved in shadow work. Tony asks us whether we are Scared of our Own Shadow.
Next is Chris Edgar’s Review of The Dark Side of the Light Chasers. In this he tells the story Debbie’s first experience of her shadow (owning up to the fact that she could be a bitch). He also gives an example of one of the exercises in the book – it is very well worth doing. The review gives a clear idea of what the book is about and how you can benefit from it. As with all Chris’s stuff it is clear and well written.
Shadow Work is a big topic. So is the meaning of non-attachment. To write on this with both depth and clarity is quite an achievement – and Albert the Urban Monk has managed to do it. Albert begins by talking about attachment and then distinguishing non-attachment (non-judgemental) from detachment (usually based on fear, usually involving withdrawl). This is a common confusion and Albert sorts through the mess simply and with penetration. If you have resisted ideas about ‘non-attachment’ because it sounds like not caring, then this is a great post to read. Albert has written a post of clarity and penetration.
Next are two posts by John from The Storied Mind. The first is about someone who I think is a much underestimated psychotherapist – Carl Rogers. It was Roger’s who pioneered Client-Centred Therapy and emphasised listening. In my view just about every modern psychotherapy owes a debt to Rogers (which I find them reluctant to acknowledge – perhaps his because his theory is elegant in its simplicity and he writes accessibly, but that may be my prejudices against academia showing). John’s post is a great introduction to the flow of becoming a person. This post is a superb introduction to Rogers’ work. It is clearly laid out and well written – even from taking on board this summary I think you could benefit enormously. Definitely a post to reflect upon and implement.
The subject of John’s blog is depression and how he responds to his depression. The post deals directly with his response to depression. It is about the affect that depression can have on a relationship and the difficulties of discussing this with the person who is depressed. John gives some good tips on how to deal with this situation. If you are living with or relating to someone who is depressed this could be a very valuable post for you.
Next is a really lovely post about using mindfulness to turn stress into serenity. What is meant by mindfulness?
Mindfulness means bringing full, soft attention to the task at hand.
I think that is beautifully put. The post ends with a simple way to practice mindfulness. If you would like more serenity in your life the simple practice explained in this post is well worth checking out.
Something that may sound abstract but I think is incredibly important is becoming aware of your own process: your own particular way of learning/changing. Once you know this you have no need to rely on others for ways to change. Once you know how you do it yourself then you aren’t knocked off course but can incorporate others’ insights easily and without losing stability. This post lays out a clear process for finding your own way – it’s quite a gem.
Finally a new blog I have discovered and come to love. It is called Coming Out of The Trees and is quite different to most blogs. On this blog Marie posts extracts from her journal about her experience with a counsellor. The posts are a few months behind – which can lead to some difficulty with comments, but if you know this it’s not a problem (the posts are dated for when the journal entries were written).
There are a couple of reasons for reading this blog. Firstly, it lets you know that, if you are going through counselling and dealing with difficult stuff, then you are not alone. If you find that it stirs up stuff for you then you may not want to read it again. Secondly, for the quality of the writing. Marie writes spectacularly well: personal and intense her prose sings. Marie’s posts can be strong stuff (inevitably given what she is dealing with) but I recommend you check out her blog, you may come to love it as much as I do.
If you have come across other posts you love about self-development, please let me know – I’d love to hear about them. Please let me know in the comments.
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