Relationships

Evan on September 24th, 2009

I have a guest post on the Psychology, Philosophy and Real Life blog called Vulnerability and Safety. It is about acknowledging our vulnerability and how this can make such a positive difference to our lives in general and our relationship in particular. I hope you like it. Evan Bookmark It Hide Sites

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Evan on August 11th, 2009

I’ve just written a new eBook. It is called Thriving in Your Situation. Buy it now by clicking here. When I sat down to write it I wanted to be sure that what I had to say was really worthwhile. I thought I would write about how to be as happy as possible whatever situation […]

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Evan on August 1st, 2009

Why do we do to others what we didn’t like done to us? One of the curious parts of our human experience is that we pass on the bad stuff. Sometimes we even realise we are doing it. And it isn’t uncommon. Those who have had abused childhoods can still abuse their children. Those who […]

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Evan on July 29th, 2009

I have a guest post on the Philosophy, Psychology and Real Life blog. It is called Empathy and Communication: do we have to have ‘been there’? It challenges the popular idea that we ‘had to be there’ in order to understand. I think this has truth in it – communication is based on experience. But […]

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I have a guest post on the Philosophy, Psychology and Real Life blog. It is called Why Intimacy is Important, Practically and Theoretically. For me intimacy is part of what makes life worthwhile. Our lives are better when we have intimacy in them I think – which is why it is important practically. If we […]

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Evan on July 5th, 2009

One of the more exciting developments in therapy over the last few years is online therapy. This is different to face to face therapy – and has some strengths that face to face therapy doesn’t have. People may be more willing to do therapy online as they may feel that it is less confronting – […]

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Evan on June 16th, 2009

Image by Hectorius Our society is prejudiced against emotion. It is still respectable to be ‘objective’ – and it is OK for this to mean devoid of emotion. It is still possible to lose an argument by getting upset – even if it is an argument about something we should care passionately about. In this […]

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Evan on June 14th, 2009

Just a quick note about a great post on identity. Seeing identity as a combination of our individuation (knowing who we are and what makes us different) and our attachments (identification with others). It is written by Tony White (a therapist in Perth Western Australia). It is simply written but I think hugely insightful. It […]

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