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Image by joguldi Sharon Astyk has written a remarkable book called Depletion and Abundance. Sharon also writes a blog called Casaubon’s Book. It deals with the twin fossil fuel crises – peak oil and Global Warming. Her response is to revive local sufficiency. She points out that most of the changes needed (and they are […]

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Evan on December 1st, 2008

Image by azrainman Crisis, What Crisis? The one that has to do with ‘ancient sunlight’. It has two components. This first is that one form of this ancient sunlight (oil) is running out (“Peak Oil”). The second is that using up this ancient sunlight (burning oil and coal) has unfortunate consequences for the weather and […]

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Image by thp365 Step Five. Moving Toward Commonality. It is a bit of a toss-up whether it was this step or the first one that is the hardest. This step involved being with disgust and feeling uncompromising. For us it may have been easier than it may be for others. We’ve been together for a […]

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Image by thp365 Step Two. Who am I in this? Eventually it becomes possible to not focus only on the other person. It becomes possible to focus on ourselves again. We have a sense that we are settled in our own skin. We have a sense of our own sensations and emotions – and the […]

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Image by thp365 This is a reflection on a process that my partner and I have recently been through. It was an extraordinarily intense and difficult time for us. It lasted about a month. During all this time we didn’t know whether our relationship would last – even though we thought we would always remain […]

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Evan on June 9th, 2008

Image by jaycoxfilm Last week I did this post on perfectionism. I was happy with it – I thought it was a worthwhile topic and the writing of it flowed. It was only after a few hours that I realised I had committed one of the cardinal sins of a blogger – ignoring the question, […]

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Evan on June 4th, 2008

Image by porcelaingirl Does perfectionism have benefits?The connection of perfectionism with discontent and misery is pretty clear. Whatever experience we have or object we encounter or person we meet, it is likely that they could be ‘better’ in some way. The person may be a saint – but they dress sloppily; the house may be […]

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Evan on May 30th, 2008

What does it mean to be an adult (psychologically mature)? From the point of view of Transactional Analysis (usually abbreviated to TA) there are two answers to this question. The first answer to this is the qualities which people have in their relationships to others and the world. There are three of these qualities: awareness, […]

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