I’m glad the post was valuable for you. And I agree wholeheartedly with what you say - that having the time to pause can be very important and that having friends, especially ones who will respect our stuckness, are worth their weight in gold.

Thank you for taking the time and effort to comment.

It’s 5 a.m. - I was feeling a bit stuck and decided to look on your website - very timely - and helpful - thanks.

Just thinking about this feeling of stuckness/immobility: I notice I am often tempted to ‘make a decision’ - one way or another -just to get out of the seriously bothersome ‘limbo’ of ’stuckness’. However, seems to me, at least some of the time, that it can be important to NOT rush things - but rather to let it all be for a bit. As in ‘Don’t just do something - stand there’…
Sometimes there really isn’t time for this, but other times I know I would have caused myself less wear and tear if I had been able to just ‘press the pause button’.

With really big decisions that can change the course of your life this ‘pause and consider’ choice may be vital. I think this is where having a good friend to talk things over with is worth its weight in gold. I know I have often been so immobilised by the conflict that I can’t even think straight about it all by myself - it is only in conversation with someone who treats me (and my ’stuckness’) with respect and kindness that I can even begin to discover what the conflict is about/what I think/how I feel and what I might like to do/not do about it.

Again, my thanks. It’s good to have a ‘blog friend’ in the middle of the night !

May