What does it mean to be an adult (psychologically mature)? From the point of view of Transactional Analysis (usually abbreviated to TA) there are two answers to this question. The first answer to this is the qualities which people have in their relationships to others and the world. There are three of these qualities: awareness, [...]
It’s not (all) their fault (usually). Parents get a bad deal I think. The expectations are growing and the support is shrinking. The expectations are extraordinary. It seems that parents are now expected to be supervising their children 24/7. When I was young (not all THAT long ago) it wasn’t like this. Now it seems [...]
Image by Scott M One of the things that the internet and the development to the world wide web has made possible is on line counselling. Let me say up front that I think this is an exciting and very worthwhile development. For those of us who have experienced face to face counselling, the [...]
Image by puroticorico We carry our childhood with us. Often we focus on the wounds that we have left over from then. This is probably because it is mostly therapists who write about this kind of thing and they tend to see wounded people. For most of us our childhood also contains lots of [...]
Humans are born with few instincts – compared to other critters. Foals within a few hours of birth can do far more to look after themselves than we could. This means that we learn almost everything. We learn such basic things as how to walk. Humans are in some sense the learning species. This is [...]
Image by Editor B Last week I wrote a post about the sado-masochistic relationship. I pointed out in this post that the sado-masochistic relationship was different to domesitc violence. This left hanging the question of domestic violence, so this post is a sort of follow-on from that post. If you have strong feeling about domestic [...]
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Image by Guylaine2007 These three qualities come from Transactional Analysis (usually abbreviated to TA). (Transactional Analysis is a psychotherapy invented by Eric Berne and his friends – people such as Muriel James, Dorothy Jongeward, Stephen Karpman, Claude Steiner and many others – on the West Coast of America in the 1950′s and 1960′s. The best [...]
Continue reading about A Psychological Health Checklist: awareness, spontaneity and intimacy
These three blogs are all about consciousness and all come from an ‘eastern’ perspective. By which I mean that they are in the enlightenment traditions of faith and all give a place of honour to meditation. 1. First up is Tom Stine. I’ll do him first because he is the person who I feel closest [...]
